18 Reasons Relationships Fail

1) LACK OF COMMUNICATION :  There is a good reason why Communication is cited as one of the most important aspects of a relationship. Good communication ensures both partners are always on the same page and understand each others wants and needs, while a lack of communication is a recipe for misunderstandings, unresolved issues and resentment.

 

2) EMOTIONAL NEGLECT:   Nobody wants to feel emotionally unheard or neglected.   A Lack of empathy, validation and emotional intimacy in a relationship can quickly cause your partner to second guess whether their partner is right for them or their needs. 

 

3) INFIDELITY:  Naturally, cheating and other forms of infidelity can cause significant and sometimes irreparable damage to a relationship.  This is a deal breaker for most couples and cause one or the other to leave the relationship at the first sign of broken trust. Approx 60% of married couples site infidelity as the reason for divorce. 

 

4) LACK OF EQUALITY & PARTNERSHIP:   It's important for BOTH partners in a relationship to feel equally valued and respected.  When your partner starts to feel more like a maid or caregiver than a partner, this can easily cause them to fee resentful, disrespected and unsupported.

 

5) FINANCIAL STRAIN AND DISAGREEMENTS:  Unfortunately, financial issues and disagreements can often put significant stress on a marriage, sometimes creating conflicts that ultimately lead to separation.  Typical sources of disagreements and conflict include debt, spending habits, savings and incompatible financial goals.

 

6) DIFFERENT LIFE GOALS or VALUES:   It's important that romantic partners are on the same page before committing to marriage.  Misaligned aspirations can cause fundamental incompatibilities that cannot be solved in any way besides divorce.

 

7) PHYSICAL or EMOTIONAL ABUSE:  It goes without saying that any form of physical or emotional abuse is completely unacceptable behavior in a relationship and should not be tolerated by either party.  Relationships do not last long with this scenario.

 

8) ADDICTION PROBLEMS:   Addictions to substances, gambling, or any other pursuits can cause huge stress on any relationship to financial losses and ultimately the relationship.

 

9) LOSS OF INDIVIDUAL IDENTITY:   People often struggle with identity issues in a marriage, feeling like their sense of self has been replaced by their role as a wife or husband.   This can sometimes cause them to leave to rediscover their individual sense of identity. 

 

10) SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY or DISSATISFACTION:  Even if relationships start off passionate and sexually active in the early stages, this sense of passion can fade over time. This often leaves both partners sexually dissatisfied, driving a wedge between them that can be difficult to overcome without proper efforts.

 

11) GROWING APART OVER TIME:   Sometimes even the most well intentioned partners can end up drifting apart over time. People naturally grow and change.  Keeping with each others growth and mindfulness of events occurring in each others life can keep you together 

 

12) CONSTANT CRITICISM and LACK OF APPRECIATION:   If either partner in a relationship feels like they're underappreciated and constantly subjected to criticism, this can be terrible for their self-esteem and contentment, if their partner fails to listen to their concerns, this will often cause the other to reconsider their relationship.  

 

13) INCOMPATIBILITY in PARENTING STYLES:   Even though not their fault, Kids can often end up putting strain on a relationship. Conflicting beliefs on the best way to raise and discipline children can escalate over time, sometimes resulting in separation and divorce. 

 

14) LACK of EFFORT IN RELATIONSHIP:  If your partner doesn't feel like your putting your fair share of energy into the relationship are much more likely to ending the relationship or marriage.  This dynamic can lead to a sense of unfairness, disrespect, and neglect, that can be difficult to overcome. 

 

15) REFUSAL TO SEEK HELP OR COUNSELING:   Sometimes, therapy or couples counseling is the best way to work through relationship issues.  When one partner is invested in this idea but the other is completely against it, this can end up creating a rift that causes the relationship to fail. 

 

16) CONTROLLING OR JEALOUS BEHAVIOR:  It's normal to feel jealous now and then. However, when this jealousy becomes a chronic issue that manifests as baseless accusations and controlling behavior, this can make your partner feel restricted, suffocated, and unfairly treated. 

 

17) UNRESOLVED PAST ISSUES: It's extremely important to ensure that past betrayals and past relationships are ended before starting a new.  Buildup of resentment if one partner is still seeing or even talking to an ex.  This will cause a strain for sure. Handle the past so it does not effect the future. 

 

18)  MARRYING TOO YOUNG:  Partners who get married too young are twice as likely to separate. People can change a lot as they mature and grow older.  So many people feel like the person they married before they really knew themselves are no longer a fit for them.